[beba0675]

Hi my name is Maria and my daughter is now 14 but was diagnose 7 years ago and our lives have been a roller coster since. Just when things seem to be going well something happens and it seems we have to start all over again. We have tried everything we could possibly think of but she she just doesn't want to accept it. She sees diabetes as the worst thing that could have ever happened to her and numerous times she has lied about both her sugar levels as well as administering her shots. So we start all over again by monitoring everything she does and treating her like a baby. We thought we would make her feel more in controll of it by lettting her take responsibility and trusting her to monitor her levels but she continues to spiral out of control and she has gone as far as to say she rather die than to have diabetes. Me and my husband just don't know what else to do. Does anyone have any suggestion?

[dano]

Maria;

Welcome to the Forum!

I am sorry to hear that your daughter is having so much trouble adjusting to her Diabetes. I am sure that there are a lot more people on this Forum that are better qualified to give you advice about this situation, but I will try, based on past issues with my son.

I think that your daughter needs to be around other people with Diabetes, teens preferably, that are just like her. This will give her someone to talk to about her condition, that truly understands where she is coming from, and to watch how others handle their Diabetes. You should probably look into a "Diabetes Support Group", in your area. Using this will help you to find other parents of other children, her own age, that hopefully she can spend time with and become friends with.

If she uses the web, she can go to a Diabetes Forum for TEENS. Here she can vent by expressing her frustrations and get some of the help she needs.

There are "Diabetes Camps" that will help her. Again people with Diabetes that are her age.

Have you considered "therapy" for the whole family? Sometimes just talking to someone about your problems and getting them out in the open is a start to recovery. I personally think that she needs some form of this, just to establish her self worth. You might consider using a Diabetes Educator, as well. You daughter needs to take the responsibility for her health very seriously. This is something that you can not do for her or make her do. She needs to understand that there will be repercussions, down the road, if her Diabetes is not controlled early in life. I am not saying this to scare you, it is only a fact of having/living with Diabetes. There are many success stories located in the Type 1 Section and this thread is one of them.

Good luck with your daughter's control and management. I wish you all the best.

[dano]

Here is a link to a video page that you can share with her. If they can do it, she can do it!